- Ensure a 5:1 ratio of positive (5) to negative (1) interactions.
- Increasingly, honestly acknowledge your emotions to yourself, then to your partner.
- Provide warm and loving responses to bids or signals for connection from your partner or child.
- Recognizing emotional expressions from a child or partner as an opportunity for closeness.
- Repair instances in which warm responses are not provided to bids for connection.
- Don't be afraid to be wrong or to ask for forgiveness.
- Be patient with yourself, your partner and your children when in the height of intense emotional interactions.
What are some ways you think your family can benefit from this research? Are there any other suggestions you would give to create a secure relationship.
Seedall, R. B., & Wampler, K. S. (2012). Emotional congruence within couple interaction: The role of attachment avoidance.Journal of Family Psychology, doi: http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/a0030479
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