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Thursday, February 23, 2012

5 Tips to Help You Break the News: Second Child is Coming

No matter the age of your first born, your child will react in some way, whether it is good or bad. Most of the time, it is a difficult concept for the first born to understand. For however long your first born has been alive, they have been the one and only in mommy and daddy’s life. The best thing to do is to prepare the little one for the newest additions arrival.

When should you tell?

Sooner the better. The more time that your child has to try to grasp this new reality is best. Once you have passed your first trimester and received confirmation from your doctor, tell your first born. That way he/she has plenty of time to react, respond and ask lots of questions.

How do you to tell?

Most parents have different ways of telling their child, keep it positive and light. Instead of getting them a toy think of a small gift like a big brother shirt or a big sister balloon. Depending on your child’s age most children do not understand the concept that there is another human growing in mom’s belly.

What should you say?

Remember that your child is, a child. Use simple words. Gently explain to your child that mommy and daddy are having another baby. Express how excited you are and put importance on how they will become a big brother or big sister. Giving them that sense of being needed will excite them.

During your pregnancy:

During your pregnancy, keep gently reminder them and talking about the baby and what they can expect. Get them involved as much as possible, like picking out names, making the babies room, picking out a present for the little brother or sister. It’s important to prepare with all the changes that will take place.

After your pregnancy:

It is obvious that when your baby is born you will be spending a lot of time and attention on the new little one. This is a very critical time for your oldest. Be sure to make time to spend one-on-one with your oldest. Be very open with communicating your feelings and ask them about their feelings. Have them participate in helping with the new baby duties.

This is a very fun and exciting time for mom and dad but can be very confusing for your first born. Take your time and be patient with your first born, they will come around.

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