Notes on Parenting

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Saturday, March 19, 2011

What I Didn’t Learn In My Parenting Classes

I took a few parenting classes at BYU and was sure by the completion of the classes that I was going to be an awesome mom. But there is a good chance I missed a class. No, I must have missed a class! I must have missed the class that tells you that being a good parent is a long and painful process. It involves painfully chipping away at the selfish part of you. The part of you that wants to sleep when the baby needs to eat. The part of you that wants to work when the children need some attention. The part of you that wants to act in anger when your child misbehaves...

Sunday was a hard day, such a hard day! We dropped my mom off at the airport and the second I drove away I missed her and worried about her. The kids were tired from the fun day before and were very difficult at church. But then when we got home from church they began to act up even more. I put them in their rooms for a time out unsure how to teach them. I didn't know what to say to them, I had never seen them so defiant. I felt like a terrible mom and someone standing at the top of the stairs was confirming my thoughts with loud sobs and grumpy words.

Everyone settled down after a few minutes. I told the kids to come downstairs to watch a movie. My 6 year old daughter, K, handed me a card as she came down. She told me she had been working on it while she was in time out. The outside had a picture of a happy lady and the words : “I love you Mom.”
The inside read: “That's OK that you put me in time out.”

The experience reminded me of a scripture in Mosiah, that teaches us to become "as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon [us], even as a child doth submit to his father."

I feel lucky to have K as my daughter. I feel lucky to know that I have a Father in heaven who loves me even more than I can love my children. A Father who teaches me even more carefully than I can teach my children.

What I failed to learn in my parenting classes my Heavenly Father will teach me in the years to come. I only hope that on those hard days I will remember to be submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love and willing to submit... like K was.

What do you wish you would have know before becoming a parent?

By Lilly J

Reposted and adapted with permission from original author. Originally published on Happy Dot Mom in 2009

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