Notes on Parenting

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Friday, February 19, 2010

Worth vs. Worthiness

We often talk about the value of worth and worthiness within individuals but do we really understand the difference? To be of worth and to be worthy are different and as parents we should be aware of those differences.

Worth is absolute and cannot be changed based upon our actions. We all have worth no matter what we may or may not do.

Worthiness is based upon our actions. Our worthiness is determined by our obedience and repentance.

As parents, it is important to recognize these differences and help our children understand these differences as well. Our children will make mistakes in their lives and as parents it is important to make sure that our children understand that they are still of great worth even when they do make mistakes.

How can we help our children understand their worth? Here are some suggestions:

  • Tell your children of their worth often and in different ways (e.g., verbally, letters, etc.)
  • Avoid social comparisons
  • Encourage children to do their best not be the best
  • Express delight in their accomplishments
  • Provide support and encouragement
  • Do not make your love conditional
These come from Strengthening our Families: An in-depth look at the Proclamation on the Family Ch. 16 (Dollahite, 2000) and Helping and Healing our Families Ch. 3 (Hart, 2000)

This list is not inclusive. There are many things that we as parents can do to help our children understand their worth. What suggestions do you all have?



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